Looking for a way to say ‘No’ to things you don’t have time for or don’t give you joy? What about a way to say ‘No’ to something you’ve already said ‘Yes’ to?
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So this just happened to me recently where I actually had to say ‘no’ to a really good friend that I already said ‘yes’ to.
And there are a couple of reasons you may want to say ‘no’:
- You’re volunteered to do things by other people.
- You don’t find any joy in the activity or just don’t want to do it.
- You may not have the time to do something regardless if you want to do it or not.
So there are two ways that I use to actually say this.
Saying No #1
Now, just a little bit of background…
A few years back, I remember asking an acquaintance if they could do something for me.
And the funny thing is I still have no idea what the ask was. I don’t even remember what the ask was, but the ‘no’ was so powerful. And it was actually done in email in such an appropriate way.
So say for instance, someone asks you to do something that you don’t want to do or do something that you don’t have time to do or just do something that simply won’t bring you any type of joy.
Here’s what you could say.
“Hi Mary, this is Marsha. Thank you so much for taking the time out to think of me. At this time, I don’t have any bandwidth for any other projects outside of my own, but I greatly appreciate you telling me about the opportunity. I can’t wait to see how it goes. Thank you.”
So that’s one really courteous way of doing it. It’s something that did not offend me when it was said to me, and I was just so impressed with it.
So what about a way to say no to someone that you’ve already said yes to, which happened to me today.
Saying No #2
A really good friend and I were going to a concert tonight, and I pulled a muscle in my back. I had some other issues going on today and I just couldn’t do it.
Also, I’m an introvert. So the idea of being in a standing-room only with my back pulled and having to probably potentially socialize with other people I didn’t know was not bringing me joy at all.
So I called up my friend and let her know.
A way that you could do this to people you’ve already said ‘yes’ to, whether it’s a friend, a coworker, another parent…
Call them up or even try email and state:
“Hi Mary, this is Marsha. I’m so sorry, but I will not be able to keep the commitment that I made. I do hope you are able to find a replacement. Let me know how it goes.”
Now, if it’s a friend, you of course can tell them what’s going on which I did today. My friend completely understood.
But if it’s someone who is not a friend or someone who is at work or someone else that you don’t really owe an explanation to… That’s just it– you don’t owe an explanation.
You don’t have to go in depth about why you said no.
It’s a way of taking care of yourself.
So those are my two ways to say ‘no’ to things that you do not want to do or just can’t do because of the time and your schedule.
And I’d love to hear from you. Have you ever said no when it might’ve been an uncomfortable situation? Or, do you have a way to say ‘no’ that may help others? If you have, go ahead drop your comments in the section below. I would love to hear it.