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Just a few months ago, I created my business startup eCourse (now revamped), the 30 Day Startup Challenge. I asked a select group of friends to help me test it out. And, I also received help from others who joined The Bossy Nurse community who weren’t familiar with my work at all. They were either on the verge of starting their own business, had a business already, or just trying to figure out what their business idea was in the first place.
And the purpose of the course: to help nurses turn their business idea into a reality within 30 days.
Of my friends, some started right away. A few completed the Challenge. Others stopped half-way through, and one actually UNSUBSCRIBED!
Ouch! Talk about a bruised ego!
But for those who completed the Challenge, I got some excellent reviews as well as some great constructive criticism that has made the Challenge even better.
But it was one particular impressive response I received when I asked for help from a friend early in the process… before the Challenge even started.
She said… “No.”
Actually, it was the way she said it that left quite an impression on me. It didn’t leave me feeling hurt or disappointed. And it didn’t even make me feel bad or inadequate. In fact, her rejection actually made me feel good.
To be honest, I was so speechless and amazed when I read her email that I couldn’t get past it. Then, I began to think about all of the ways I could use this “no” in my own life.
So I revised it a bit and came up with what I’ll call the “self-care no.” This “no” allows you to honor your own wishes and empower yourself by declining requests from others for time and energy when you actually don’t have either. Especially at a time when you’re trying to work on your own goals and every minute of your time really matters.
You’ll find it below, and feel free to copy it, use it and abuse it (and in this case, abusing it is a good thing).
I’m thrilled/excited/elated that you thought of me. Right now, I’m swamped with my own projects and won’t have time to dedicate to your [insert their request here]. But congratulations on starting this! I can’t wait to hear about your progress!
Isn’t that a great one? A very positive and upbeat way to decline anyone!
So what do you think? Is saying “no” to requests for your time and energy hard for you to do? Is the “self-care no” something you would now consider using?
Feel free to comment below.
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